8) Contact Your Matches After the Event After the event is over, you will typically receive an email with your matches within 24 hours.
We recommend sending an email to your favourite match right away and suggesting a meet up for a quick drink or dessert.
Likewise, it can be beneficial if you 'warm up' by arriving at the venue a little bit early and socializing before going on your actual speed dates.
Men, if you're feeling shy about making small talk with women before the event, start chatting with the other dudes. If you're still feeling shy, you can always bring a friend to the event to make it a more comfortable experience.
Keep in mind that your match may be receiving several messages from other guys at the same time, so don't get upset if she doesn't reply right away (or if at all).
If you don't get a reply, she's probably not interested - don't pursue her any further and move on to someone else.
We'll also explain a unique strategy that is VERY EFFECTIVE, so be sure to check it out! Be sure to smile and convey a positive energy, because it will make the situation more comfortable for both of you. It'll help set you apart from most of the other guys who'll be trying to impress them.
The key is to do it in such a way that is playful, not insulting.
Unless you've built up an incredible connection with her, it will likely create an uncomfortable situation.
But DON'T write down notes in the middle of the date - it can make the other person feel uncomfortable and think that they're getting judged on everything they say.
Wait until after the date, and scribble down a couple notes before heading to next table.
The most important thing is to convey a fun, interesting personality. Speed dating is meant to be a fun event, so relax and don't take things too seriously.
We'll go into a lot more detail about conversation topics on the next page. If you're too serious, you may come off as desperate or people may think you're trying too hard.